No matter how hard he tries, my boyfriend can’t find my G-spot

Interviewer: It seems like you’ve been going through quite a frustrating journey regarding intimacy with your boyfriend. Can you tell me more about what’s been going on?

Respondent: Sure! My boyfriend has been on this mission to find my G-spot for weeks now. He’s tried every possible angle, but honestly, it just feels uncomfortable—almost like I’m constipated. He even introduced a vibrator with all sorts of settings, but I didn’t feel much from that either. It’s a bit funny to look back on our increasingly desperate attempts, but in reality, it’s making me lose interest in sex altogether. I’ve even tried to explore on my own, but I still can’t reach orgasm. I don’t even look forward to it anymore.

Interviewer: That sounds really tough. What do you think is contributing to the lack of pleasure in your sexual experiences?

Respondent: I believe that turning sex into a task or a challenge really takes away from its essence. That exciting, erotic connection between people seldom happens when the focus shifts to performance or hitting some sort of goal—like that experience everyone seems to rave about. I’m kind of glad I’ve been able to find humor in all of this because it helps me relax. The stress we’ve felt during our attempts is definitely getting in the way of truly enjoying sex.

Interviewer: What kind of advice would you offer someone facing a similar situation?

Respondent: It may sound simple, but I think the key is to stop putting so much pressure on it. Instead of making it a high-stakes event, we should shift our focus to just having fun together and let the good feelings happen naturally.